Last week we wrote about look out signs that your partner is going to propose, but what if you are ready to move your relationship to the next level but your guy seems happily stuck on the same level. What do you do? While you could just tell him that you are ready for an engagement, if not approached well, you might do more damage than good.
Sometimes it’s like handling a scared deer, if you make sudden movements, they get spooked easily and run into the woods. The best way to get the ball rolling is to plant the idea in their head with some subtle hints and let them sprout into the proposal of your dreams.
1. Tell him how lucky your friend is
Do you have at least one friend who recently got engaged recently? I bet that the answer is yes. Honestly, Facebook is nothing but wedding photos, engagement rings, and baby photos. When he is in the right mood, gush out how lucky your friend is to take that bold step.
2. Talk about the future
Another way is to talk about the future together. Have serious conversations about the future- life priorities, how to handle tough times, and your living arrangements. Doing this is a clear sign that you are in this for the long haul and to have them take part in envisioning a future together with you. The more confident your partner is, the sooner you will see the ring.
3. Talk about what you loved in a recent wedding you went to
Get him talking about the reception, the dress, the music, or anything about the wedding that you both attended. Casually, mention to him how you would do it differently if it were your wedding. This is come off as causal conversation, but subconsciously get him to picture his big day with you.
4. Talk about the couples you admire
Many times, people are scared by the idea of marriage because they only know about unions which have failed miserably. This is one of the most common responses from men as to why they don’t want to get married. But it doesn’t have to be this way! Do you have friends or family members who have successful marriages? Talk about them and pin point what you admire about them. This reinforces the ideas of strong marriages, and gives you insight to what he values in a life partner.
5. Mention how much you like or don’t like a particular ring
Whether it’s a celebrity of a friend, talk about their ring. Tell them how you like the band but don’t love the setting. Talk about the size and even the shape of the stone. Hearing about this will let him know the kind of ring that you want. Sometimes finding the right engagement ring, or the best place to buy a ring, is the only thing hindering him from proposing.
Remember manage and proposals have changed over time. Some great information can be found in our infographic. But if you feel like it’s time to take the next step in your relationship, use one, or all of these tips. Hopefully you’ll be saying “yes” before you know it.